Just me casually sitting here in a ball gown whilst my friends are holding like three iphone flashlights up to try to give a sis good lighting wondering why the hell my iPhone pics suddenly look they were taken on a janky camera from 1998. To be clear (unlike my camera ), there are much crazier things happening in the world to concern ourselves with RN but can I just say I am really starting to believe all the conspiracy theories about Apple because this iphone quality is tragic! Anyway—now that I got that off my chest—I had such a fun time at my first #CBC aka the black prom of politics, feeling energized as we prepare for 2020. Also, these shoes made me feel like a princess and all of you need them immediately. Go buy them RN from my friend @aurorajames @brothervellies who makes them sustainably and with women in Africa who earn a fair wage for their labor. You can thank me later for this blurry PSA! #mightdeletelater
MORNING MANTRA FOR ALL: “So when you’re told you’re not good enough, you tell them, ‘not only am I good enough, I am #MORETHANENOUGH.’” (You know you landed on the right book title when all your friends send you this clip of auntie @im angelabassett delivering the quintessential @blackgirlsrock speech we all need and it just so happens to double down on the very same exact words on the cover of your book.😭 ) Now, feel free to join me in replaying this 100,000x times because it’s a message we all need and NO ONE could deliver these words quite like this ICON!!
Practicing partnership is not always easy. But I’m learning some lessons in Love require sacrifice. And you never lose when you choose someone who makes it all worth it. 🖤🙏🏽#MyMorehouseMan #BlackLove
You know you’re officially #adulting when your priorities shift. In all 11 years of my NYC life I have never missed #NYFW. This season, some of my favorite shows fall on the same date as my future mother-in-law’s 60th birthday trip. So, instead of romping through the streets in heels going to shows, I’ll be hiking through #TheNarrows of Utah in workout clothes. Not because I don’t love fashion or because I don’t love showing up for my friends who are doing amazing, culture-shifting work in fashion, but because sometimes you just gotta put family first. 🖤
Arrivederci, Venice! It’s been trill. ✌🏽🍝 Thanks for the pasta, the gondolas, the good company, the excuse to get dressed up for a #beyday slay, the red carpets, the new lipstick and the lessons in how to apply foundation like a real Italian via my crush @timquinnbeauty (quick beauty psa: @armanibeauty luminous silk foundation is the move for a weightless glow in literally every complexion under the sun ). Leaving you with a little exit to remember...🇮🇹💃🏽 #venicefilmfestival #armanibeautystars #armanipartner #tbt
When you’re on deadline but won’t let work stop you from running off the grid for the long holiday weekend like...🥳! Guess where I’m going? What song should I put to this video? Can you tell I’m procrastinating? #kbye #summerfridays
I’ve learned to love who I am, even if certain parts were forged by fire. - #MoreThanEnough
Pulled up to my favorite festival for my book signing wearing all black on black brands head to toe. Shouts to the beautiful designer @fenoel & my glam fam @alanawrightmakeup @naivashaintl for this lewk that made me feel like somebody’s fly back up dancer. And to @target for carrying all the black-owned beauty brands we used (which I found whilst spying on people buying my book in a nearby aisle😉 ). We decided to capture all the festival makeup + curly hair product secrets (+ an unexpected clap back on somebody’s anti-feminist friend who stumbled his way into my comment section ) on #IGTV. Because, yolo! Watch, enjoy, and lmk if you want more of these.🖤#targettalent
We spend too much time hearing and telling ourselves we are not enough. Not smart enough. Not beautiful enough. Not successful enough. Not young enough. Not old enough. Not woke enough. ENOUGH with all that. You are enough. You were BORN enough. The world is waiting on you. • Excerpt: #MoreThanEnough Photo: @remipujol Makeup: @porschefabulous Hair: @md warren Lewk: @Arje For: @elleuk
that every woman needs to watch and rehearse before her next salary negotiation (+any big meeting, speech, intimidating thing ). I first came across this scene featuring @Ocasio2018 modeling how to be your own hype(WO )man in a documentary called #KnockTheHouseDown that follows five female first-time politicians as they run for office. I’ve since played it over and over and over; and all I can think is how differently some of my own negotiations might have gone had I had this mantra playing in my mind. The gap isn’t going to close if we don’t close it. Playing and staying small serves no one (except “The Man” ). So, let’s all repeat after AOC: “I need to take up space. I need to take up space. I am here. This is me taking up space. I can do this. I am experienced enough to do this. I am knowledgeable to do this. I am prepared enough to do this. I am mature enough to do this. I am brave enough to do this.” #morethanenough
Been around the world and aye aye aye...there’s no place like HOME. After a self imposed solo honeymoon in Hawaii and a much needed break from my first book tour, I’m back in Brooklyn in reflection mode, lounging on the same couch where much of the magic of book writing went down. Feeling just as grateful to get away as I am to be back, recharged, refocused, and refilled. Throughout all of my summer work travels, it occurred to me that this is the first time in my life when home has meant more to me than just a place to sleep, shower, and change. Brooklyn has given me community, it’s given me a home to look forward to coming back to, it’s given me roots. Thank you @elleuk for spotlighting my little slice of BK in your September issue. And big ups to @lynettesaid , my neighbor, my former Teen Vogue work wife, and my fellow auntie boo ting for penning such a beautiful profile. (And for letting me convince you to jump the pond two years ago from London to call Brooklyn home! ) • Photography: @remipujol Makeup: @porschefabulous Hair: @md warren Dress: @jonathancohenstudio
that is about to infiltrate @Target because...FAM, MY BOOK #MORETHANENOUGH IS NOW BEING SOLD AT TARGET STORES NATIONWIDE!!!🙏🏽🎯💃🏽 No IG caption could ever accurately capture what this means to me as someone who grew up roaming (+dancing ) around these very aisles dreaming up what big things my future might hold beyond my small town—so, to commemorate this full circle moment, I thought I’d be extra and ask some friends to help me make this Oceans 8-but-make-it-black-themed dance video. Hope this brings as much joy to you as this opportunity to join #TargetTalent has for me! Watch this space for more exciting updates coming soon...but first, I’m celebrating this news all weekend long and feeling like giving away a few free signed copies of my book so tag me in your best rendition of this #SummerFriday vibe and check yo DMs! • Shout out to my dancing queens: @ashullzz_ @dejahpoole @dayzjah @morgsta22 @shaina mcgregor Directed by: @redisdancing Shot by: @davegeffin @lebanalog Music by: @jonathansingletary Produced by: @katya martin @eyye_yohann @annaddelarosa Production support: @ggggavin @mannazel @illuminatalienyc Glam: @alanawrightmakeup @hoshounkpatin Styling: @nasrin jb
“...just remember that your real job is that if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else.” • #RIP #ToniMorrison, photographed by Jill Krementz in 1974
Cheers to heeding the call to adventure. To honoring the call for stillness. To being called to seek the same fulfillment of love and work but in absolute solitude. To opening up to learning in your 30s. To being ready to receive the magic of traveling alone for the very first time. To writing. To reading. To being. To seeing life through a different lens. You called. I came. Let’s go. 🌊 #selfcaresunday
HAPPY BIRTHDAY to @karliekloss , the kindest, most supportive friend, and the only person on the planet who I’d let pick me up like a little baby (she does this ALL THE TIME BTW lol ). Here’s to many more years of breaking out #britneyspears choreo on @projectrunwaybravo runway together. I LOVE YOU!
Off to LA to plant a big seed. Wish me luck for good things to grow. 🌱Also, LA FAM! Tell me where to plan my celebratory meal because it’s manifesting season and I can already taste it.😛🙏🏽💫
As a kid I loved friendship necklaces. As an adult I decided to make one for myself—and for us. Because you can’t be good to anyone if you’re not good to you. Proud to put this baby into the world with you @bychari Hit the link in my bio if you want one of your own (+ a few friends who need this little #selfcareSunday reminder 😉 ). #MoreThanEnough
Out of office. Chasing waterfalls. 🌊 #weekendmood
*Races off set early for the airport, narrowly makes flight with just moments to spare, but still manages to get the shot—despite stares from strangers—because, I mean, it was golden hour and DO YOU SEE THESE BOOTS?* 👀💫A 10/10 #SummerFriday vibe brought to you by @jonathansingletary (I really owe him for this one!! )
Find someone who loves you with no makeup on when your hair is frizz-bombing and you haven’t shaved your legs because you’re tired and missed the memo on #hotgirlsummer. 🖤My kind of #summerlove.
Only took me 11 years of New York City living to find out why secret escapes upstate are so good for the soul. 💫 📸 @adeline
More than a book—issa movement. #MoreThanEnough 📚 Thanks to my genius friend @redisdancing for translating this message into actual movement and to the most beautiful dancers I’ve ever met who brought it all to life in the sixty seconds we had before a torrential downpour. THIS is #blackgirlmagic, y’all: Dejah Poole- @dejahpoole Ashley Simpson - @ashullzz_ Caroline Dartey - @caroline_dartey Dayzjah Thomas- @dayzjah Mei and Shui (the Lee twins ) @the_leetwins
Summer Friday vibezzzz.😎Putting my feet up and swiping my way into the weekend. But I’m not looking for a date; I’m recovering from my book tour by keeping the conversation going with all of the incredible minds and vibrant souls that I connected IRL with on tour. As a Bumble advisor, I’m proud to invite you all to hit me on @bumblebizz (if you are on Bumble, just switch modes ). We can talk career advice, mentorship, life stuff, book stuff, and more on the new in-app video feature that allows us to connect live face to face. I wish this existed when I was in my twenties! It’s dope!! You down? #BumblePartner
How I looked to my intern when I made a reference to T-Boz from TLC and she had no idea what I was talking about. Peak #AuntieE. *Felt old, might delete.* #FaceApp
#selfcaresunday but make it fashion = a country bike ride to the farmers stand in a full @dapperdanharlem lewk only to find it closed 45 mins before we got there. May not have fresh produce but def got the shot. 😎
Did what I came to do. Said what I had to say. Proud to have taken my final bow on my first book tour last night in DALLAS alongside Texas’ finest fashion designer (aka my TV husbae ) @brandonmaxwell in a pair of cowgirl boots made by a black woman I love who happens to be celebrating a big birthday today. Everyone, go give some BIG love to @aurorajames of @brothervellies who not only lets me steal all her best shoe samples but who is the kind of friend I’m not sure I could have made it through this tour without. 🖤Tomorrow isn’t promised. Go tell the people you love that they are #MORETHANENOUGH today.
Putting my best foot forward for the last leg of my book tour and all I feel (exhaustion aside ) is GRATITUDE. This has been one of the most exhilarating experiences of my life. Emo posts to come but first, DALLAS: Watch me step out of these pumps and into some cowboy boots TONIGHT at the @dallasmuseumart at 7p in convo with my intelligent, hilarious, handsome work husbae @brandonmaxwell better known as the new big Texan TV star on @projectrunwaybravo 🎥 by @cassandragrey for @violetgrey
Felt cute, might post another! Because #EssenceFest and she’s my #DayOne 💁🏽♀️💁🏽♀️
#GirlsTrip but make it fashUn. No? #EssenceFest 📸 by @vernonfrancois
They say the 4th of July is about freedom. But in a country where many freedoms are being denied to people who look like me and you, we can’t afford to take any of our liberties for granted. At least one win for the culture that I am choosing to celebrate today is the Crown Act, which was passed yesterday, making California the first state to ban discrimination against natural hair (braids, twists, locs, etc. ). After generations of being conditioned to believe our natural hair isn’t professional enough or sophisticated enough for the workplace, this is one small but affirming step in the right direction. Tomorrow at #EssenceFest I will be joining black women in sharing our natural hair journeys, which are inextricably tied to a deeper journey of rejecting limiting belief systems that have threatened to keep us small for too long. Holler if you feel me! Join us tomorrow at 4:35p on the @devacurl stage as we go innnn.💁🏽♀️ #devaxessence #devacurlpartner #MORETHANENOUGH
Just touched down in New Orleans for my first #EssenceFest like...#SHEREADY! 🥳💥🍹What to eat/drink/shop/see/do, fam?!
When you ask for an all-female, all-POC team to get the job done and the results exceed expectation (every time! ). Because once an editor, always an editor 😉 even when she sometimes finds herself in front of the camera and on the other side of the interview. Thank you @bust_magazine for hiring a team who made me feel like a feminist superhero for a day. Thank you @radsadblackbry for penning this gorgeous profile, for making me feel seen during our interview, and for dropping a couple thug tears about the ways in which my book made you feel seen as well. Grateful.💗#MoreThanEnough * Shot by @__gracerivera Hair by @naivashaintl Makeup by @alanawrightmakeup Styling by @tiffanyreid Dress by @emiliopucci
Claiming space for our love no matter what our calendars may say.🖤
Sup CHICAGO! Quick, I have 30 hours and 5 events. What to eat, drink, shop, do?
If you would have told me when I was working the MetroPCS kiosk at the mall or slanging surveys by the food court that one day I would be in an @express campaign twirling next to an actual supermodel who happens to be my TV work wife on @projectrunwaybravo (also the actual sweetest human being I know ), I would have treated myself to a few more Cinnabon’s on my lunch break lol. But foreal tho, never underestimate the brown girl with the mall job because you never know what big things are on the horizon. Shout out to the whole amazing team that made this former editor feel right at home in front of the camera. 📷 by the inimitable @studio_jackson @naivashaintl @alanawrightmakeup @jordenbickham @naviavision
A God Dream. 📚🙏🏽💫On my Ms. Frizzle steez serving you “author dress” realness IN THE @NYTIMES ! Real talk moment: Seeing this was the moment it all got really real for me. (I may or may not have screamed!! ) Thank you for being on this journey with me and thank you to every single one of you who showed up and showed out in support of this book. Making this list takes more than hard work, strategy, counsel, prayer, petition, and pounding pavement...it takes a whole tribe of people who understand that support is a verb. Every single pre-sale was a vote of confidence. Every endorsement from you was a bet on me. And yet, this book is so much bigger than me and my story. This book is about claiming space for all of our stories, our bodies, our voices, our value, and our power. No matter what they say. This win isn’t mine, it’s ours...and it’s just the beginning! #MoreThanEnough #nochill #beyondblessed
WE did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For the record: This was NOT a given. This is a GOD THING. Excuse me while I exist in my feels about this for the rest of eternity. #MoreThanEnough